What is the Demisexual meaning?


And is there a link between being demisexual and being an empath?

demisexual meaning


Demisexuals are people who experience sexual feelings and attraction only after developing a close emotional relationship, and not on the basis of first impressions or physical characteristics.

Demisexuals require an emotional connection to feel sexual attraction, and building trust is a key factor in this, which takes time.

The pre-existence of such a connection is the one and only condition under which a demisexual is able to start feeling sexual attraction, and I for one can totally relate to this.

demisexual meaning

Demisexual Pride Symbol

This is the Demisexual Pride Flag/Symbol


Have a look at my page signs you are an empath to see if you have the empath traits too.


I only discovered the term demisexual recently when I came across a Facebook post in my feed, saying that the TV presenter Holly Willoughby claims to be demisexual, and it had a brief description of the term. 

I couldn't believe it, this description described me to a tee!.... so I looked into it further, and wondered if there was a correlation between demisexuality and being an empath, and lo and behold more articles pop up, making a direct link between the two!

(Although it doesn't mean that all empaths will be demisexual).




I realised early on that for some reason I don't find many people attractive, and I thought 'wow, I must be so fussy!', and how with the few relationships I have had, I had never been attracted to my partners at first sight, and my feelings had to develop over time.

It always took me months to actually have enough of a connection with my potential partner to be able to take things further, much to their frustration!

The good thing is, you can rule out the 'bad eggs' by their unwillingness to be patient, and it gives you the time you need to really connect with someone on a deeper level.


Empath Love


In a way, I think it's a good way to be because so many people judge others on their looks and can become shallow, obsessing only on someone's appearance, regardless of their personality. 

They can become so caught up in their physical attraction that it can lead them to become blind to that person's faults, so you can look at it as a positive because it takes that out of the equation for us demisexuals.

It also works in the reverse for me.... If I meet someone and I think 'you look ok', and as I get to know them, they show themselves to be a bad person, they start to become ugly to me.

It's like their inner appearance ultimately shines through to the outside, and that is what I will eventually see.


Demisexual meaning